Dear Trapped: You are feeling trapped because that is exactly what your husband is trying to do to you. His behavior is controlling and abusive; it sounds like it is getting worse, and it absolutely must stop. You are smart to recognize the warning signs and to reach out for advice.

In today's Dear Annie column, Annie Lane gives advice to a woman who feels like she's walking on eggshells around her husband and is tired of his trying to control her.

A healthy financial arrangement should feel fair, transparent and respectful -- not like you’re under a microscope while your husband has free rein. My husband and I have always shared a joint checking account,